How to Became Effective Part - 4

 Listening to Our Language

The language we choose to communicate our thoughts and respond is a reflection of our personality and self-awareness. Our language is a true indication of whether we are proactive or reactive.

There are some key differences between the sentences used by a proactive person and those used by a reactive person.

Reactive Language is -                                               Proactive Language -

There's nothing I can do.                                         Let's  Look at our alternatives

That's just the way I am.                                         I can choose a different approach.                 

He Makes me so mad.                                             I control my own feelings.

They won't allow that.                                            I can create an effective presentation

I have to do that .                                                  I will choose an appropriate response

I can't                                                                    I can't

I must                                                                   I prefer

If only                                                                    I will